To Those Who Feel Like Giving Up…

If you’ve been going through a strenuous time lately and feel like you want to call everything quits, this is for you…

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Hey Warriors, 

If you’ve been going through a strenuous time lately and feel like you want to call everything quits, this is for you. If you’ve had thoughts like you’re useless, your life is pointless and purposeless – this is definitely for you. If you have recently decided you’re tired of fighting and you just want to end it all, I want you to read this….

I know you’ve been going through a tough time, but please keep going. I understand exactly how you feel. Although your pain or illness might be different from mine, the impact that constant pain has on a human always conform to the same blueprint. I have been urged to remind you of this message; you are here for a reason, there is something greater on the other side of the struggles you’re currently facing. I say this because I too have had all of those feelings that I highlighted at the beginning of this post. However, we can’t always operate by our feelings. Why? Because feelings are fickle.feel like giving up 4.png They can also be manipulated. Sometimes our judgement of a situation isn’t accurate. We get so caught up in our feelings to the extent that we let them control us, instead of taking control of them. 

You have the power to push past all of those emotions right now. This doesn’t always seem possible when we feel so low, but it can be done. 

You are loved and your presence can enrich another person’s life. Maybe you’re the reason somebody else is able to make it through a difficult time. You could be somebody’s muse or inspiration. 

If you are feeling like you are losing grip of yourself and of life right now, pray. Pray to God for help and he will catch you. That is the only reason I am still here, able to type this message to you. Because I rely on God to supply me with what I need when I am running on empty. This is not blind faith, this is trusting and knowing that God is keeping me company in the midst of my dark times; giving me the strength to keep going. God loves you and is waiting in the sidelines – hoping you will turn to him so he can be invited into your life. You don’t have to carry the burden of what you are enduring by yourself. Give it over to God to carry it for you. 

 

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and loaded down with burdens, and I will give you rest.”, Matthew 11:28 ISV

 

When you come to God and pass all of your troubles on to him, he makes everything much more bearable for you. Have you ever heard of the saying “a problem shared is a problem halved?” The concept is quite similar here in the spiritual realm. You will find the peace that you have been looking for when you pass your sorrow and struggle on to God. 

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Some of you may have seen my posts or tweets last week, encouraging people to know that their pain is linked to their purpose. I wholeheartedly believe this. Frustratingly enough, this can be incomprehensible and crazy to accept. But let me use myself as an example…

A little while after I got sick, I became full of sorrow, anger and hopelessness. I couldn’t understand why on earth I was experiencing chronic migraine. I was convinced that I was going to face this problem for the rest of my life; which set me on a downward spiral. I began to question God about why he would allow me to go through this. I couldn’t see how this struggle would even be useful at all. From my perspective, it seemed like I was being made to suffer for no reason at all. Until that day – when I had hit rock bottom and prayed to God to take me because I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life suffering like this. God came to me alright, but not with the answer that I was expecting. Instead, he told me to create the pain warrior code and use it to be the light to those who are struggling the same way as I. To encourage people and let them know that they are not alone in this war. It was at that moment that I finally saw a purpose in my pain.

This is why I wrote that message last week, telling you all to find a way to use your experience to the benefit of somebody else. Let’s be clear though – by no means is this an easy task. You will get discouraged and yes, you will feel exhausted beyond belief physically, emotionally and mentally. On the contrary, you will also feel rewarded in knowing that you have reached out to somebody else who was in need.

Last week, I wrote in one of my tweets “there is strength in numbers”. In order to become stronger, we must encourage one another and stick together. Look at the bigger picture warriors; every time we help one person, that person goes on to help another; who then goes on to reach out to another and so on…

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Warriors, you have a purpose and you have work to do. You can’t give up on yourself. If you give up on your life, then you’re cutting off the lifeline to somebody else who is yet to be inspired and encouraged by you! Your life is so much bigger and deeper than just yourself. Your life is also about those who are around you and impacted by you. This is why you need to continue existing. But I don’t just want to encourage you to exist, I want to encourage you to live life. I’m not saying you’re going to find full contentment right NOW. I don’t promise that you will stumble upon contentment right at this current moment. But you will get there, one step at a time. It first starts with you taking the opportunity to say yes. Then you work towards it one day at a time. Slowly but surely, you will develop into a warrior who is not only enduring but is also empowered and ultimately, elevated. 

So tell me, do you still feel like giving up?

Let me know if this has encouraged you, warriors. Share your thoughts and opinions below. 

Until next time, 

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

Take Time Out! #PainWarriorPepTalk

You are entitled to have a rest, don’t deprive yourself of something that is
detrimental to your wellbeing…

Greetings Warriors!

I haven’t posted a #PainWarriorPepTalk in a while! I am hoping you have recently had some better days (emotionally mentally) & some pain-free days also!

I haven’t posted much lately as I had the summer holidays away from work. Unfortunately, the new school year has commenced. Alas, I am classroom-bound again for this academic year *cue sad violin music*.

Before the holidays started, I had originally planned to get a lot of work done. Truth be told, I didn’t get much done at all! I was regretful once the end of the holidays approached. I felt like I had failed myself. However, my perspective changed once I reflected on what I did get to do over the summer; I spent quality time with my family and close friends. I don’t usually get to spend much time with my people during the academic year. This is usually because I am pressed for time, or don’t always feel well enough whenever it’s the weekend or a holiday from work. When I realised this, it had hit me that maybe I was being too hard on myself: as a person who deals with a chronic illness, I juggle two jobs (most of us spoonies struggle to deal with one!). Before the holidays, my body was already acting up and I felt run down. I needed the summer holidays to rest, recuperate and regenerate my energy. It was ludicrous to plan to use my time on holiday FROM work, to DO work! I’m not a newbie warrior – I know better than that.

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So why am I sharing this with you? To remind you that it is OKAY to rest. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. There needs to be time for everything;  including a time for working AND a time to rest. But make sure you don’t neglect the latter. Resting enables you to regenerate the energy you will need to get your next task or goal completed.

Now one can easily think “I already know this…”, but don’t consider this pep talk to be a new lesson – consider it to be a revision session.

We already know spoonie life entails our bodies constantly being under attack. You can’t control every aspect of what your illness does to you. However, you can control how much rest you allow yourself to have.

If we take the Spoon Theory into account, it is essential for us to recuperate and regain our spoons. We stifle our chances of having four/five spoons if we are always pushing ourselves on one spoon. This will result in us crashing in a way that is so disastrous, it will take longer to recuperate. Longer than it would have if we had just rested prior to our bodies feeling run down.

For those of you aren’t sure what the Spoon Theory is, the best way I can explain it follows;

The Spoon Theory is usually used by those who suffer from chronic illnesses or have disabilities. This theory was originally penned by Christine Miserandino: it uses metaphorical spoons in a way that can be likened to a meter. This meter measures how much energy an individual has to engage in tasks for that day. The quantity of spoons the individual has (0-5) indicates how much energy they possess. 0 spoons mean the individual has absolutely no strength to function: it’s a dreadful day. 5 spoons mean the individual is feeling quite powered & able to function to the best of their ability. Keep in mind that a person having 5 spoons doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t experiencing any pain at all. I have had many 5 spoons days where I am able to go to work and function to the best of my abilities – with the pain still present.

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Which brings me back to the point: You are entitled to have a rest. Don’t deprive yourself of something that is detrimental to your wellbeing. Also, stop making yourself feel guilty or stressed whenever you do take time out to rest. If you spend the whole time doing this, you won’t even feel rested when it is over. Thus you will only be returning, feeling just as rubbish – if not worse than you already felt before you had your break.

Take time out and make every effort to enjoy it. Do whatever makes you feel peaceful & tranquil. Whether that is sleeping, reading, watching television, rolling on the floor (providing that it doesn’t use up your spoons) whatever works for you! When you do, own it. Be good to yourself. Your body is already fighting you on everything else as it is. Your work, job or family aren’t going anywhere and they’ll be there when you have finished your break!

When was the last time you took time out for a break? Leave a comment and talk to me!

Wishing you well warriors! Until next time,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

Chronic illness in the family? This week’s #PainWarriorTalk

For today’s #PainWarriorTalks…some chronic illnesses are said to be hereditary or likely to run in the family – does anybody have a family member who suffers with a chronic illness as well? It doesn’t have to be the same as what you have either. Let us know us know in the comment section 😊

Have you tried pain management or counselling?

Question Time! Have you ever tried pain management or counselling for your illness or pain? How did you find it? Comment about your experiences or interest 🙂👍🏾

This season will pass Warrior. Be encouraged.

If you’re going through hell, keep going! #PainWarriorPepTalk

I decided to use this quote for this week’s #PainWarriorPepTalk; “If you’re going through hell, keep going”. It is a common misconception that Winston Churchill said this, however it has never been recorded that he actually did say this.

Warriors, I pray that you will be encouraged by this short message. Sometimes a short sentence with a few words can carry a connotation of an essay. 

The only way you are going to make it out of your hell is to continue pushing your way through it. If we were to look at the semantics of this quote, the key word used here is ‘through’. When you go through something, there is an entry point, and also an exit point. Like when you go through a tunnel. You WILL come out on the other side. This is something I have heard my pastor (Pastor Mike White) say before pertaining to the word ‘through’. So warriors be reminded and encouraged; walk THROUGH your pain and keep your head up. You will make it out alive. You might still have your pain at the end of the tunnel, but the most important thing to have is your peace of mind so you will continue to live your life to the fullest. 

Hope you have a great week warriors,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

Your Pain is Not in Vain!

Your pain has a purpose.
Your pain is NOT in vain!

Hey Warriors!

I know it has been an extremely long time since I’ve written a post- please forgive me! I will make sure to post more frequently because there are a lot of subjects & topics I want to address!

So those of you who follow Pain Warrior Code on twitter would have seen a tweet that I posted recently;

“Every day is a new opportunity to learn something new and to help somebody else. Your pain is NOT in vain!

I was inspired to tweet this because we can easily get stuck in a rut with all the pain we experience on a daily basis. We can become consumed by a dark, isolated world where all we feel is pain, but don’t take into consideration that it can be used for a purpose. Continue reading “Your Pain is Not in Vain!”