New Year, New Perspectives?

So warriors, I ask you – what have you been believing about yourself and your life that needs to be challenged and changed?

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Greetings Warriors!

This is officially my first blog post of 2019! This year has already flown by quickly – I can’t believe we’re in the beginning of February already! 

I am hoping many of you have started of 2019 well, have set your goals and started to execute them already. If you haven’t; it’s all good! I’m hoping you will consider doing this after you’ve read this post. 

When a new year comes around, it is very common for most people to spend it doing the following: trying to get our lives in order; making readjustments in our finances, our relationships and health. We set our goals, and then let the rest of the year flow on. Now it’s great that we do this, but my question is – how much of that time do we spend adjusting our perspectives and mindsets?

Walk with me as I dig into this…

The goals we usually desire to achieve are oriented around the areas that I listed previously; our careers, health and relationships. But here is the thing – our goals are essentially impacted by our mindsets and perspectives on life. There is no escaping this. So considering those internal thoughts and beliefs have such an important impact, why is it that we never take the time to review how we see and process things in our lives?

Having a bad year can determine one’s expectations for the following year. Some people may have an atom of excitement; hoping the year will be even better than it’s predecessor. But some may not even have a shred of optimism or feel inspirited for the year to come as life has beaten them down terribly. Their experiences have caused them to lose hope. 

Now, we will go through those seasons in life when we lose hope – in sickness and in health. Unfortunately, dealing with a chronic illness or chronic pain can leave you in an emotional and mental state that is crippling. Knowing this, it’s easy to understand how somebody can simply carry this mindset with them into their next year. 

As for me…

Over the last few months, I have taken out a lot of time to review my life and perspectives on everything. I dug deep spiritually, mentally and emotionally; God uncovered some things about me that didn’t look good. I started to realise that I carried more anxiety than joy and more fear than I did peace. I was in the position where I had lost hope and zeal for my future. The last few years were filled with so many trials and tribulations, that dealing with chronic migraine was the hand that suffocated my ability to bounce back in genuine hope. I had started to just accept and settle with the notion that I was sick – and that was the way I was going to remain. My mouth was saying all the right things, but in my heart, I started to doubt that things would ever actually get better. It just seemed like I couldn’t catch a break. I had gotten so used to seeing darkness all the time, that this was the new thing I started to expect for my future. From my perspective, life had only declined over the last 5 years and therefore probably wouldn’t improve. At all. These feelings didn’t develop overnight, but after years of struggling with being in chronic pain. The tricky part about all of this is, these feelings within my heart were so subtly embedded, that it took revelation from GOD to realise that this was how I felt. 

We can think we’re being real with ourselves, but not realise there are some cases of emotional baggage that we have hidden so deep within us; we don’t even realise they’re there. 

But God. Through venting to him in prayer, and hearing great messages in church, I started to remember the things that I had known all along; that I had a lot to look forward to; that my current circumstances were just that: current circumstances. I was reminded that my life won’t always be this way. It came back to my recollection that seasons change. That where I am now isn’t where I was 5 years ago – therefore where I am now isn’t where I’ll be in the next 5 years. 

After this reminder, I asked for God to show me how to have peace and contentment with my life once more. I started to accept and believe God’s promise to me again – that my healing will come and my chronic migraine will eventually pass. After all, it says in the bible that “what is impossible to man is more than possible with God”. However, I had to believe first to get this process started. If I refused to believe this, then I have closed to door to this being able to happen. 

The importance of belief…

Here’s the thing; when we truly believe something, it transfers from our heads to our hearts and vice versa. What we believe ultimately comes out through our words and our actions. What you believe about yourself and your life does ultimately have an impact on who you will become. I’ve highlighted this concept before, especially about self-fulfilling prophecy in some of my previous posts.

Keep in mind that this also works in reverse. Your actions and your speech can also influence what you believe about yourself and your life. 

Why our actions and speech matter…

Well as I’ve mentioned in the past, as a man thinks (in his heart), then so is he! Forget we are what we eat – we are what we believe! Our perspectives in life are under our control and it’s up to us to adjust them. This kind of stuff doesn’t happen overnight, but if we are active and consistent in monitoring our thoughts about ourselves and everything around us, then we can be en route to having a life that is filled with more joy than sorrow as chronic illness/pain sufferers! We can become the goal diggers who achieve anything that we focus on. But we have to make up our minds to make it happen first. 

Let me give an example…

Let’s use a fictional person – Adam. Adam wants to be an author, but is struggling with doubts that he will be successful. This hinders him; causing him to procrastinate on writing anything. Because he hasn’t written any books, he can’t publish anything. One cannot publish something that is yet to be written. Adam’s thoughts of failure are essentially at the root of his success not taking place. 

Having the belief that something can and will work out for you is where everything starts. If Adam holds on to the thoughts that he can achieve his dreams and follows it through with action (writing his material), the the possibilities to what he can achieve are endless. But if he chooses to hold on to the doubts and focuses on those more – then he closes the door; blocking his own success from coming to him, period. 

So warriors, I ask you – what have you been believing about yourself and your life that needs to be challenged and changed? What would you like to achieve or see happen, but are doubtful about? 

I could give you a long, cliche list of motivational sayings, but instead I’m going to leave you with something that resonated with me when I needed it the most. This is something I still draw on whenever I need it…

There was a season in my life when the time was coming for me to transition from a part-time (but consistent) job, to an agency job which didn’t guarantee me with consistency, but would have an open door to more money and more hours. I wasn’t entirely sure whether I should take the leap of faith into the agency lifestyle, so I sought out advice from my mum. I remember saying to her, “but what if it doesn’t work out?”. 

My mum simply responded to me, “what if it does?”.

Her response hit me like a ton of bricks. I was so focused on things going wrong, that I didn’t take the time to consider what it could be like if things did work out! It sounds so simple, but when you’ve become conditioned to the mentality that “things never work out for you”, you totally ignore the possibility of something going well for you for a change. After weighing it up in my mind, the joy and freedom that I envisioned was so strong that I had to give it a try. Of course, I also waited for confirmation for God before I jumped into it also. So before you say it, I’m not encouraging you all to make mad, unprecedented decisions without applying wisdom. However, I am encouraging you to not allow fear of failure to prevent you from trying altogether. 

So what’s the point?

Warriors, I share all of this with you to encourage you all to make a conscious effort to work on your perspectives this year. Life can get so much better for all of us regardless of whether we are sick or well. But I have come to learn that life getting better for us isn’t always dependant on our circumstances. Especially for those of us who are dealing with chronic illnesses and pain. 

Don’t believe me? 

Why is it that there are people in the world who have everything a person could ever dream of; health, money, great career, family, friends – and yet they have no peace or satisfaction with life? This is because the issues they are facing are internal. When it comes to dealing with issues that are internal, the external things cannot and will not always fix it. Sometimes this can come down to their perspectives, the way they view their lives.

Isn’t it interesting how the person who has good health can be just as dissatisfied with life as the person who doesn’t have good health? Again – it’s about perspectives!

This is why we must seek to change the way we view and process things on the inside of us. Once we make an effort to seek the beauty and goodness in life, we will find it. Once we find it, the external will then be impacted and changed to us because our perspectives have changed on the external (as a result). Through God, I am able to have the right perspectives that are allowing me to enjoy my life again, even as a person that is dealing with chronic migraine. 

So warriors, if you want to have a more positive perspective on life (yes I used the p word!), then it all starts with our speech and thoughts about ourselves and our lives. That is where it all starts, then it goes on to evolve. But let’s make sure everything is in alignment with each other. Don’t think something great about yourself but then speak something out of your mouth that contradicts that same thought. You can’t grow anything good from contradiction and confusion about yourself. 

Set your goals, make them happen and see a great change come about in your life this year warriors. 

“As a man thinks, so is he”

Proverbs 23:7

The choice is yours, but choose yourself over your sickness this year. That doesn’t get to dictate everything over your life – including your goals. That’s on you.

Until next time warriors,

Tasha M

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It’s your life, live it!

It’s your life warriors. Try to live it to the best of your abilities. Nobody can live it for you!

So for this week’s #PainWarriorPepTalk, remember that your life is yours to live warriors. Try to live it to the best of your abilities. Nobody can live it for you! We don’t know how long we have left so let’s try to make the most of it. Don’t let your struggles manipulate you to believe that you are not allowed to have a life that you can enjoy.

I will be posting an article in the coming days to share tips with you on how to live your life to the fullest. After all warriors, we’re learning to live our best life yet! Keep an eye out!

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

Good Morning & Good Week Warriors!

Hey Warriors! I am sending each & every one of you good vibes. Wishing you all a pain-free, flare-free & anxiety-free week! That’s right I’m daring to wish it & speak it over you guys. This week is yours, not your illness’! ⠀

The struggle seems endless. Keep going anyway!

Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter.

Hey Warriors,

I think this week’s Pain Warrior Pep Talk is needed!

I know some of you have been struggling and feeling like things just won’t ease up. Like the weight of your problems are crushing you. Life can become frustrating when it seems like one issue with your health has backed off, but another has now reared it’s ugly head. Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter. You were built to endure this war. Trust that a season will come where things will ease up for you  – whether it be a remission, a cure, or one of your problems passes. IT. WILL. COME.

There is a scripture that I often hold on to during my toughest days or weeks;

“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair.” 2 Corinthians 4:7

This scipture came from a letter that was written by a man named Paul. He was an apostle who had faced many trials, tribulations, abuse – physical and verbal due to his faith in God. This quote in itself highlights the facts that as a believer, we WILL encounter situations and pains that will feel like we are being broken down, but we won’t be crushed. We won’t be destroyed by it. I have found this has helped me because I turn to God for strength when I feel like chronic migraine is weighing me down. Like everybody else, I also struggle. But I cannot rely on my own strength. If I did, I would have ran out of strength and given up on my life eventually. But it is God who continues to renew mine when I feel like quitting. Now I share this not to preach at people and convince you to get baptised tomorrow, but to be one hudred percent transparent about how I get through my tough times, and HOW it is that I manage to stay afloat and have the energy to encourage people. If I was to exclude my faith from this to suit people’s feelings – then that, quite frankly, would make me a fraud and a liar.

This is what keeps me going, I hope it will encourage you warriors. You can have an amazing future lying ahead of you. However, you’ll only get to see it if you keep on pushing and don’t give up. I’m in right in the middle of this struggle with you. Keep your head up warriors.

Until next time,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

This season will pass Warrior. Be encouraged.

Hang on in there!

Although your situation looks dark and it’s easy to believe that life will always be this way – dare to be the person who refuses to believe that.

Hey Warriors!

It has been a few weeks since I posted the last Pain Warrior Pep Talk – but you guys know it’s a struggle to blog as a person with a chronic illness!

The last few weeks have been more difficult than usual. Morale was low and my canister of ‘patience for chronic pain’ was running on empty. There were loads of tears and prayer. But God always renews my strength when I feel like I can’t cope anymore.

So warriors I want to encourage you to hang on in there, don’t you throw in the towel on life. Although your situation looks dark and it’s easy to believe that life will always be this way – dare to be the person who refuses to believe that. Now I’m not talking about being a person in denial, I’m talking about choosing to believe that life will get better for you. Tear yourself away from this concept that says ‘things will only get better if your ilness is cured’. Instead, your mind should be set on the concept that says ‘things will only get better if you choose to live life beyond your illness’. What if I told you that your life can be better right now, DESPITE your sickness? It can be, but it all STARTS with your attitude and your perspective on life. It comes down to you choosing to look at life differently. This isn’t an easy transition, but it can be done. So let’s explore it…

How is it that there are people out there who have experienced terrorising and heartbreaking situations – yet they still manage to have genuine smiles on their faces? How do they manage to have true contentment? How do they get there? This is something I have been exploring and learning myself. I will continue to share more with you as we go along. The first thing I’ve come to recognise is the best way to start changing your perspective on life is by recognising what good things you have going for you.

what are you grateful for?

Keeping that in mind, I have a task for you this week warriors; I want you to focus on one value this week – gratitude. what are you grateful for? Write those things down and pin it up in the place that you spend most of your time. This will serve as a great, visual reminder that you’re blessed.

Although it can seem impossible to love life when you are battling with chronic illness, I don’t believe it is. However, the first step to learning how to do this starts with not giving up on life. You can’t continue to love life if you have given up on it. So keep your head up, keep walking THROUGH this dark tunnel (like I mentioned in the last Pain Warrior Pep Talk) and hang on in there.

Feel free to share your thoughts and comments on anything that has helped you to change your perspective on life warriors!

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

If you’re going through hell, keep going! #PainWarriorPepTalk

I decided to use this quote for this week’s #PainWarriorPepTalk; “If you’re going through hell, keep going”. It is a common misconception that Winston Churchill said this, however it has never been recorded that he actually did say this.

Warriors, I pray that you will be encouraged by this short message. Sometimes a short sentence with a few words can carry a connotation of an essay. 

The only way you are going to make it out of your hell is to continue pushing your way through it. If we were to look at the semantics of this quote, the key word used here is ‘through’. When you go through something, there is an entry point, and also an exit point. Like when you go through a tunnel. You WILL come out on the other side. This is something I have heard my pastor (Pastor Mike White) say before pertaining to the word ‘through’. So warriors be reminded and encouraged; walk THROUGH your pain and keep your head up. You will make it out alive. You might still have your pain at the end of the tunnel, but the most important thing to have is your peace of mind so you will continue to live your life to the fullest. 

Hope you have a great week warriors,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode