Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter.
I think this week’s Pain Warrior Pep Talk is needed!
I know some of you have been struggling and feelng like things just won’t ease up. Like the weight of your problems are crushing you. Life can become frustrating when it seems like one issue with your health has backed off, but another has now reared it’s ugly head. Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter. You were built to endure this war. Trust that a season will come where things will ease up for you – whether it be a remission, a cure, or one of your problems passes. IT. WILL. COME.
There is a scripture that I often hold on to during my toughest days or weeks;
“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair.” 2 Corinthians 4:7
This scipture came from a letter that was written by a man named Paul. He was an apostle who had faced many trials, tribulations, abuse – physical and verbal due to his faith in God. This quote in itself highlights the facts that as a believer, we WILL encounter situations and pains that will feel like we are being broken down, but we won’t be crushed. We won’t be destroyed by it. I have found this has helped me because I turn to God for strength when I feel like chronic migraine is weighing me down. Like everybody else, I also struggle. But I cannot rely on my own strength. If I did, I would have ran out of strength and given up on my life eventually. But it is God who continues to renew mine when I feel like quitting. Now I share this not to preach at people and convince you to get baptised tomorrow, but to be one hudred percent transparent about how I get through my tough times, and HOW it is that I manage to stay afloat and have the energy to encourage people. If I was to exclude my faith from this to suit people’s feelings – then that, quite frankly, would make me a fraud and a liar.
This is what keeps me going, I hope it will encourage you warriors. You can have an amazing future lying ahead of you. However, you’ll only get to see it if you keep on pushing and don’t give up. I’m in right in the middle of this struggle with you. Keep your head up warriors.
Until next time,
I decided to use this quote for this week’s #PainWarriorPepTalk; “If you’re going through hell, keep going”. It is a common misconception that Winston Churchill said this, however it has never been recorded that he actually did say this.
Warriors, I pray that you will be encouraged by this short message. Sometimes a short sentence with a few words can carry a connotation of an essay.
The only way you are going to make it out of your hell is to continue pushing your way through it. If we were to look at the semantics of this quote, the key word used here is ‘through’. When you go through something, there is an entry point, and also an exit point. Like when you go through a tunnel. You WILL come out on the other side. This is something I have heard my pastor (Pastor Mike White) say before pertaining to the word ‘through’. So warriors be reminded and encouraged; walk THROUGH your pain and keep your head up. You will make it out alive. You might still have your pain at the end of the tunnel, but the most important thing to have is your peace of mind so you will continue to live your life to the fullest.
Hope you have a great week warriors,
I experienced a hemiplegic migraine attack for the first time. I wanted to share my experience with you and hopefully encourage you in the process.
Good Afternoon Warriors, I hope you are all having a decent weekend so far.
I wanted to share my experience with you and encourage you in the process.
Some of you may have seen that I posted a message on twitter, facebook and instagram, highlighting that I experienced a hemiplegic migraine attack for the first time on Friday.
SO what happened?
Well I had been fighting off a migraine that had been lurking since the beginning of the week. I was quite successful in praying it away until Wednesday evening. It felt like an annoying – but normal headache. I figured it would have softened to a manageable level by the time I woke up on Thursday. However, that wasn’t the case…
I first woke up about 2 hours before my usual time. I felt EXTREMELY hot! I assumed it was because of the weather and attributed it to that. Thus, I spritzed myself with water and went back to sleep. When it was time to get up, I had woken up in a nightmare; the whole left side of my body was dead. My face, arm and torso couldn’t move. I felt an excruciating pain in my arm, as well as an intense throbbing in the left side of my head. This was extremely out of the ordinary for me because most of my migraine attacks usually take place on the RIGHT side of my head, or across the whole of my frontal lobe.Â My breath was also short and I was struggling to breathe.
Was I having a stroke? No I couldn’t be…I remember reading something about migraines being closely linked to strokes. About people having migraines that felt like a stroke…or people having a stroke that felt like a migraine…or was it about people having what they THOUGHT was a migraine, when really they were having a stroke? GOSH I COULDN’T REMEMBER!
So I panicked.
All rational thought had dispersed and I knew I wasn’t thinking clearly, so I dragged myself to my sister’s room next door. God is good because he used my sister. She helped me to calm down. She praised God and prayed to him for me when I couldn’t catch enough breath to do it myself. Once I calmed down, I was able to focus on putting my trust in God to sort the situation out.
By the end of the day, the feeling in my hand returned. But that was about it. In my head I wondered if I should go to the hospital, but I decided there was no point – I was already in enough pain and struggling to do anything. How on earth was I going to get dressed, go to the hospital and sit underneath blinding lights and crazy noise (remember I’m hypersensitive to BOTH) for countless hours, only to be given paracetamol? PARACETAMOL DOESN’T EVEN WORK FOR ME ANYWAY!!
The following day I was still in a lot of pain, and my arm/torso still felt like it was being tormented with pins and needles. The only description I could give at the time was “my arm felt like it wasn’t a part of my body anymore, like it was a separate body of it’s own”. It has been three days since it started and my arm still feels a bit disconnected sometimes, like it’s an add on.
After doing loads of research, I came to find out what I had experienced was a hemiplegic migraine: which are more rare than other types of migraines (according to the medical sites I’ve read). They differ greatly from the migraines I usually experience. The articles I read highlighted that they usually happen as a result of a mutated gene. They also pointed out that it sometimes takes people days for their body to fully recover and feel normal again after such attacks. So I’m keeping my head up and trusting God that it will pass. That I won’t have to experience this again. But I am reminded that if I was to experience such an attack again, God will be with me just the same. After all, he promised in the bible that he would never leave me nor forsake me. He also promised that he will be with me during the difficult times;
“…listen to the Lord who created you…I have called you by name; you are mine. When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.”
Warriors, what I experienced was frightening and made it very easy for me to panic. However after some time of reflection, I realised something; it’s important to have an anchor. That anchor is what pulls you down. It helps you to regain your senses and to think clearly when you are panicking. That anchor is the person you can trust to be 100% honest with you because they only ever have your best interest at heart. Now God essentially is the one who keeps you sane, upright and enables you to bounce back during situations that wreak havoc on your life. That being said, he will also place people around you to anchor you down and talk sense into you. Those people for me are essentially my sister and my mum.
Pain warriors, I encourage you to figure out who your anchors are – the people who you run to in times of need when you aren’t thinking clearly. They don’t always have to be people who are around you physically. For some of you, they might be people who you contact straight away online or via the phone. They might be friends or even colleagues who you work with. Once you have that individual in mind, take a moment to give thanks for those people. They have your back. If you feel like you don’t have one, trust that you will get one eventually, even if its through the spoonie communities online – that’s absolutely okay. Because that anchor will understand your struggle better than anybody else!
We all need someone to anchor us down when we are losing grip of everything. I urge you to hold on to your anchors, because they hold on to you.
Have a great weekend warriors. I’ll be sharing my update about my chronic life journey in the next few days!
Most of us pain warriors can’t control how our illness affects our bodies, but ALL of us can control how it affects our minds.
I originally intended to write this as a short pain warrior pep talk, but I found the message kept developing further as I was typing it up. I believe there are many people whose spirit has been deflated by the constant internal battle they’ve had to face. I hope this helps…
This is a reminder to hold on to who you are. I have often written to you guys that you are more than your pain. There is more to you than your illness. Your illness is a part of who you are, of course. However don’t be deceived into believing that is ALL you are.
Amongst other factors, your personality, character and experiences all play a part in shaping your identity. Your pain has also played a part without a doubt. However we must take the time to be reflective of ourselves & our illness. If not, our pain can dominate everything and cause us to be shaped into a person that is no longer even close to who we truly are. Pain IS hard. Pain DOES change you. But the one thing you must not allow your illness to do is diminish your spirit. Being ill will inevitably pull you down for a while, but choose to rise up again and fight back warriors. You deserve to have a good life. A good life doesn’t exclude hard times, unfortunately those are guaranteed. But you are allowed to have a life that is beautiful despite your struggles. I keep fighting because God has always been faithful and I’m reminded that he came so I could have life abundantly. An abundant life is not one that is solely consumed by my sickness, but one that is focused on having peace, love towards others, contentment and gratitude for the blessings that I have in my life. Now these things don’t come overnight – but through actively seeking God, they come over time.
I’m sharing this because I want you to understand that my identity hardly comes from my sickness, but more from my relationship with God and my faith. That’s what has anchored me & pulled me back when I felt like my sickness was changing me for the worst.
I encourage you all to remember who you are. Who you were before you got sick. That person is still in there, but has been buried under the rubble of your pain. Now I’m not talking about the immature or less aware parts of who you were. I’m focusing on those good parts of you that your illness has suppressed; maybe you used to be outgoing, patient, forgiving or even courageous. Those traits are essentially who you are. Allow them to rise to the surface again. Your illness has attacked your body and your mind, but you have the power to take your mind back again. Most of us pain warriors can’t control how our illness affects our bodies, but ALL of us can control how it affects our minds. Many of us just don’t realise this. I urge you to take some time out to reflect on where you are right now emotionally and mentally, and ask yourself where do you want to be. Everything starts with a choice being made. Then you fight to go and get it. Go and get yourself & your life back warriors. It’s YOURS for the taking! Remember that you are powerful and awesome! You rule!
You’d be surprised at the power that dwells within you. It just takes a bit of work to access it, but once you do…then’ll you be truly unstoppable.
I first just want to start off by saying thank you to everybody who has shown support to the Pain Warrior Code – the feedback and reception this blog has received over the last week has been amazing! Thank you to every one of you who has liked, shared, retweeted and re-posted my recent article ‘share your story’, as well as my older posts and tweets. I am so thankful because you all are helping to make the vision that I have for the Pain Warrior Code happen!
I decided this week would be a good time to give you what I like to call a #PainWarriorPepTalk. I’m going to focus on the power of a pain warrior because there are some warriors out there who are tired. Mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. It happens to all of us. We all reach a moment when we have given everything and feel like there is nothing left of us to give. As much as I wish that nobody else would have to experience this, it is inevitable for every pain warrior to have this sooner or later.