5 tips for when you feel overwhelmed with pain.

I am going to share these mood-elevating, perspective-altering tips that are guaranteed to make a difference to your day…

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Dealing with chronic pain is like going on the most gut-wrenching ride within a theme park; it throws you through some hoops and drags you through some dark tunnels. Sometimes you feel supercharged for whatever comes. Other times, you find yourself deflated; with little or no hope that things will improve. Have you found yourself feeling the latter?

If so, then you have come to the right place. I’m going to share these mood-elevating, perspective-altering tips that are guaranteed to make a difference to your day. I usually do these things whenever I feel depleted; they have worked for me every time.

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1)   Acknowledge & Vent It Out:

That’s right warriors. Name and shame what is dragging you down. Acknowledge your feelings – call them out. This may seem random, but it is vital to highlight your feelings. I say this because you can’t address or tackle something that you haven’t acknowledged. Acknowledgement triggers off the process of getting past your feelings. Once you have done this, you can now continue the rest of the process. Let us personify ‘feelings’ or ’emotions’ for a minute. People can easily find themselves trapped by their emotions – especially when they choose to ignore the elephant in the room that is their feelings. This can cause your feelings to remain as guests that have overstayed their welcome; which can eventually end up controlling you rather than you controlling THEM. Some feelings aren’t meant to be entertained or accommodated for such a long time. I speak this from my own personal experience. Get them out, so you can finally KICK THEM OUT.

2)  Encourage Yourself:

This is an area where people struggle. Terribly. Although that is understandable, this is a necessity for anybody’s survival. This is where our resilience needs to kick in. I find that the more you do this, the more it will become a reflex for you. Naturally, you can be the most positive person in the world and you will still have those days where you cannot encourage yourself.

So how can
you achieve this? By reminding yourself of the trials you have overcome in the past. Warrior, don’t neglect the fact that you are a warrior; that means you’ve been fighting and surviving! If you cannot recall anything you have survived, I am reminding you right now that you have survived life. You have survived everything that has been thrown at you – yet you’re still here. Hold on to that. Another major part of encouraging yourself also includes highlighting the fact that things will change. Life guarantees change. It WILL come. But it can be hard to believe this when your circumstances have looked the same for so long. It gets really easy to lose hope and doubt this. So I challenge you to do the complicated thing; believe it will change. Because they will. Reading this will help;

 

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

 

 

3)  Rest Yourself:

This is a subject I recently highlighted in my last post Take Time Out! I cannot stress enough to you just how vital it is for you to rest. TAKE A NAP! I am so serious…the human race has the tendency to behave erratically when they are tired. Ever been really hacked off about something, but found that same thing didn’t bother you much once slept on it? That’s because sleeping/resting can act as a natural reset button for your brain. Lack of rest can cause us to judge things irrationally. Take a rest and see how you feel when you get up. It won’t solve all of your problems, but it’ll clear your mind. Having a clear mind will help you with the next step.

4)  Surround Yourself With Optimism:

When you have a clear mind, the materials, media, and company you expose yourself to can determine how you feel for the rest of the day. Now would be the perfect time to watch something that is ideally inspirational or encouraging. I urge you to be aware of what kind of messages you choose to digest at this time. If you fill your mind with negative or unsubstantial resources – guess what will circulate in your mind? Think of it this way – just like they always say “you are what you eat”…you also are what you read, watch, listen to and converse about. Feed your soul with something good which will impact the way you think warriors.

Warrior, don't neglect the fact that you are a warrior; that means you've been fighting and surviving!

5)  Redirect Your Thoughts:

Now, this where the work begins. It is likely that the thoughts you had before will attempt to return. They usually sound something like “it won’t be long before you have another emotional slump”, or maybe “I’m still in pain and that’ll never change”. I urge you to either push them away, negate them or redirect your thoughts altogether. There’s that saying; “you can’t stop a bird from landing on your head, but you can stop it from building a nest”. Take this example & don’t be hard on yourself – because you can’t control those initial thoughts from entering your mind. However, you can control what you choose to do with them. I often find it easy to negate these thoughts by pulling on gratitude; what things I am grateful for in my life that are going well. Sometimes it’s hard to think of things per se, but then I just take a moment to acknowledge that I am alive and able to function. It might not be to the same degree of others. Heck, it might not even be to the degree that I used to – but I’m still functioning, regardless.

So now that I’ve shared these tips with you – put them to good use! I am hoping they will aid you during those down, difficult days. Put these points up somewhere in your house where you can see them. They will serve as a great reminder for when those days come.

Are there any tips you would add to this? Comment below and let us know! Don’t forget to share this article so it can help others who need it!

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Until next time,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

 

Take Time Out! #PainWarriorPepTalk

You are entitled to have a rest, don’t deprive yourself of something that is
detrimental to your wellbeing…

Greetings Warriors!

I haven’t posted a #PainWarriorPepTalk in a while! I am hoping you have recently had some better days (emotionally mentally) & some pain-free days also!

I haven’t posted much lately as I had the summer holidays away from work. Unfortunately, the new school year has commenced. Alas, I am classroom-bound again for this academic year *cue sad violin music*.

Before the holidays started, I had originally planned to get a lot of work done. Truth be told, I didn’t get much done at all! I was regretful once the end of the holidays approached. I felt like I had failed myself. However, my perspective changed once I reflected on what I did get to do over the summer; I spent quality time with my family and close friends. I don’t usually get to spend much time with my people during the academic year. This is usually because I am pressed for time, or don’t always feel well enough whenever it’s the weekend or a holiday from work. When I realised this, it had hit me that maybe I was being too hard on myself: as a person who deals with a chronic illness, I juggle two jobs (most of us spoonies struggle to deal with one!). Before the holidays, my body was already acting up and I felt run down. I needed the summer holidays to rest, recuperate and regenerate my energy. It was ludicrous to plan to use my time on holiday FROM work, to DO work! I’m not a newbie warrior – I know better than that.

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So why am I sharing this with you? To remind you that it is OKAY to rest. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. There needs to be time for everything;  including a time for working AND a time to rest. But make sure you don’t neglect the latter. Resting enables you to regenerate the energy you will need to get your next task or goal completed.

Now one can easily think “I already know this…”, but don’t consider this pep talk to be a new lesson – consider it to be a revision session.

We already know spoonie life entails our bodies constantly being under attack. You can’t control every aspect of what your illness does to you. However, you can control how much rest you allow yourself to have.

If we take the Spoon Theory into account, it is essential for us to recuperate and regain our spoons. We stifle our chances of having four/five spoons if we are always pushing ourselves on one spoon. This will result in us crashing in a way that is so disastrous, it will take longer to recuperate. Longer than it would have if we had just rested prior to our bodies feeling run down.

For those of you aren’t sure what the Spoon Theory is, the best way I can explain it follows;

The Spoon Theory is usually used by those who suffer from chronic illnesses or have disabilities. This theory was originally penned by Christine Miserandino: it uses metaphorical spoons in a way that can be likened to a meter. This meter measures how much energy an individual has to engage in tasks for that day. The quantity of spoons the individual has (0-5) indicates how much energy they possess. 0 spoons mean the individual has absolutely no strength to function: it’s a dreadful day. 5 spoons mean the individual is feeling quite powered & able to function to the best of their ability. Keep in mind that a person having 5 spoons doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t experiencing any pain at all. I have had many 5 spoons days where I am able to go to work and function to the best of my abilities – with the pain still present.

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Which brings me back to the point: You are entitled to have a rest. Don’t deprive yourself of something that is detrimental to your wellbeing. Also, stop making yourself feel guilty or stressed whenever you do take time out to rest. If you spend the whole time doing this, you won’t even feel rested when it is over. Thus you will only be returning, feeling just as rubbish – if not worse than you already felt before you had your break.

Take time out and make every effort to enjoy it. Do whatever makes you feel peaceful & tranquil. Whether that is sleeping, reading, watching television, rolling on the floor (providing that it doesn’t use up your spoons) whatever works for you! When you do, own it. Be good to yourself. Your body is already fighting you on everything else as it is. Your work, job or family aren’t going anywhere and they’ll be there when you have finished your break!

When was the last time you took time out for a break? Leave a comment and talk to me!

Wishing you well warriors! Until next time,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

It’s your life, live it!

It’s your life warriors. Try to live it to the best of your abilities. Nobody can live it for you!

So for this week’s #PainWarriorPepTalk, remember that your life is yours to live warriors. Try to live it to the best of your abilities. Nobody can live it for you! We don’t know how long we have left so let’s try to make the most of it. Don’t let your struggles manipulate you to believe that you are not allowed to have a life that you can enjoy.

I will be posting an article in the coming days to share tips with you on how to live your life to the fullest. After all warriors, we’re learning to live our best life yet! Keep an eye out!

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

The struggle seems endless. Keep going anyway!

Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter.

Hey Warriors,

I think this week’s Pain Warrior Pep Talk is needed!

I know some of you have been struggling and feeling like things just won’t ease up. Like the weight of your problems are crushing you. Life can become frustrating when it seems like one issue with your health has backed off, but another has now reared it’s ugly head. Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter. You were built to endure this war. Trust that a season will come where things will ease up for you  – whether it be a remission, a cure, or one of your problems passes. IT. WILL. COME.

There is a scripture that I often hold on to during my toughest days or weeks;

“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair.” 2 Corinthians 4:7

This scipture came from a letter that was written by a man named Paul. He was an apostle who had faced many trials, tribulations, abuse – physical and verbal due to his faith in God. This quote in itself highlights the facts that as a believer, we WILL encounter situations and pains that will feel like we are being broken down, but we won’t be crushed. We won’t be destroyed by it. I have found this has helped me because I turn to God for strength when I feel like chronic migraine is weighing me down. Like everybody else, I also struggle. But I cannot rely on my own strength. If I did, I would have ran out of strength and given up on my life eventually. But it is God who continues to renew mine when I feel like quitting. Now I share this not to preach at people and convince you to get baptised tomorrow, but to be one hudred percent transparent about how I get through my tough times, and HOW it is that I manage to stay afloat and have the energy to encourage people. If I was to exclude my faith from this to suit people’s feelings – then that, quite frankly, would make me a fraud and a liar.

This is what keeps me going, I hope it will encourage you warriors. You can have an amazing future lying ahead of you. However, you’ll only get to see it if you keep on pushing and don’t give up. I’m in right in the middle of this struggle with you. Keep your head up warriors.

Until next time,

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

Introducing Tuesday Talks!

Hey warriors, Pain Warrior Code has been sharing posts called #TuesdayTalks where anyone participate in conversation on instagram, twitter and Facebook. However I know some of you don’t have accounts on the other platforms so I’ll be posting them on here also.

This week’s topic is: what do you wish more people had awareness about? This could be your illness, struggles or symptoms that come along with it – join in with the chat and voice your opinion by posting in the comments section!

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

Hang on in there!

Although your situation looks dark and it’s easy to believe that life will always be this way – dare to be the person who refuses to believe that.

Hey Warriors!

It has been a few weeks since I posted the last Pain Warrior Pep Talk – but you guys know it’s a struggle to blog as a person with a chronic illness!

The last few weeks have been more difficult than usual. Morale was low and my canister of ‘patience for chronic pain’ was running on empty. There were loads of tears and prayer. But God always renews my strength when I feel like I can’t cope anymore.

So warriors I want to encourage you to hang on in there, don’t you throw in the towel on life. Although your situation looks dark and it’s easy to believe that life will always be this way – dare to be the person who refuses to believe that. Now I’m not talking about being a person in denial, I’m talking about choosing to believe that life will get better for you. Tear yourself away from this concept that says ‘things will only get better if your ilness is cured’. Instead, your mind should be set on the concept that says ‘things will only get better if you choose to live life beyond your illness’. What if I told you that your life can be better right now, DESPITE your sickness? It can be, but it all STARTS with your attitude and your perspective on life. It comes down to you choosing to look at life differently. This isn’t an easy transition, but it can be done. So let’s explore it…

How is it that there are people out there who have experienced terrorising and heartbreaking situations – yet they still manage to have genuine smiles on their faces? How do they manage to have true contentment? How do they get there? This is something I have been exploring and learning myself. I will continue to share more with you as we go along. The first thing I’ve come to recognise is the best way to start changing your perspective on life is by recognising what good things you have going for you.

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Keeping that in mind, I have a task for you this week warriors; I want you to focus on one value this week – gratitude. what are you grateful for? Write those things down and pin it up in the place that you spend most of your time. This will serve as a great, visual reminder that you’re blessed.

Although it can seem impossible to love life when you are battling with chronic illness, I don’t believe it is. However, the first step to learning how to do this starts with not giving up on life. You can’t continue to love life if you have given up on it. So keep your head up, keep walking THROUGH this dark tunnel (like I mentioned in the last Pain Warrior Pep Talk) and hang on in there.

Feel free to share your thoughts and comments on anything that has helped you to change your perspective on life warriors!

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode

The Liebster Award!

Hey Warriors!

I am pleased to write that the Pain Warrior Code blog has been nominated for the Liebster Award! I would love to start off by thanking the lovely Alyssa – the lovely lady who is being the ‘Fight MS Daily’ blog. She is very inspirational and posts fantastic articles that really reach out to people – hence why she has such a large following! I encourage you all to check out her blog and give it a read. My favourite article of hers is…

This version of the Liebster Award comes with 6 rules, they are:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you
  2. Share 11 facts about yourself
  3. Answer the 11 questions the blogger gave you
  4. Nominate 11 bloggers who deserve the award
  5. Create 11 original questions for the nominees to answer
  6. Let them know they’ve been nominated

11 FACTS ABOUT ME!

  1. I’m a devout christian, I believe in having a personal relationship with God and following his will for my life. I’m a not a religious person. Neither was Jesus.
  2. I can play 3 instruments WELL: guitar, piano and ukulele. I play more but…I’m not so great at them!
  3. I can speak Turkish, I grew up with a lot of Turkish friends and took interest in the language.
  4. I LOOVEEE cultures; which is why I have a degree in anthropology.
  5. I like K-pop music, and Korean dramas. I got into them last year and have been addicted since.
  6. I have three cats but I’m a dog person. Thats a long story…
  7. I’m British, my heritage is Jamaican. Both sides of my family are from there.
  8. I enjoy reading chick lit, but I hate chick flicks! lol
  9. It’s on my bucket list to travel to each continent across the world. I have intense wanderlust that is waiting to be fulfilled.

Answers to Alyssa’s Questions

  1. Do you prefer cats or dogs? I grew up with dogs first. So I would say I’m a dog person. I love that they rely heavily on their relationships with humans, compared to cats. They’re too independent!
  2. What is your favorite color? Blue!
  3. What is the most amazing place you have been able to visit? So far, it was the ruins in Side, Turkey. Particularly the Antique Theatre. I was in awe of the place!
  4. If you could go anywhere in the entire world, where would you go? It would either have to be Miami in Florida or Brazil.
  5. What has been the best day of your life? It would have to be the day I got baptised. It is the best decision I have ever made.
  6. Even though I already think you are amazing, if you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be? Probably my stubbornness. I know being stubborn can be a blessing sometimes. But other times, it’s not.
  7. Who is your biggest inspiration in life? It would have to be my mum, she made so many sacrifices for me and my family. She is a hard worker and determined. She has a hustler’s spirit (a law abiding one of course). She is solid. But she still has a big heart for people and is always fair.
  8. We all have bad days in life, how do you make it through those days? Sometimes it takes me a while to gather my thoughts. I ALWAYS take it to God. Sometimes I cry, lament or pray for strength. Other times I just listen to what God has to say to me. He always renews my strength and my mindset that I can get up and fight another day.
  9. What is your biggest pet peeve? People who chow down on food loudly. I shouldn’t be able to hear your mouth clapping. I shouldn’t hear sucking noises. Cut that nonsense out!
  10. What type of book do you prefer to read and who is your favorite author, if you have one? I LOVEEE music literature/fiction. I don’t know if that’s the right terminology but thats what I call it. Fictional stories that are based around characters who are musicians. I really enjoy them.
  11. What was your absolute favorite movie that you can never get enough of? It would have to be Bad Boys and Beverly Hills Cop 2…notice the pattern here? lol

My 11 Nominees:

Inside the Rainbow – https://insidetherainbow.blog/about/

Pain Pals Blog – https://painpalsblog.com

Romans 535 blog – https://romans535blog.wordpress.com

A Chronic Voice – https://www.achronicvoice.com

The Frozen Mind – https://thefrozenmind.com

Highway To Healing – https://highwaytohealingblog.wordpress.com

Gail Loves God – https://gaillovesgod.blog

Musings Of A Wounded Healer – https://thewoundedhealer.blog

Chronic Pain With A Higher Perspective – https://validatingchronicpain.com

Brainless Blogger – https://brainlessblogger.net

Life With An Illness – http://lifewithanillness.com

Undeniably Sara – https://undeniablysara.com

My questions for my nominees:

  1. Where are you from? (heritage/where you grew up)
  2. What does your name mean?
  3. What inspires you?
  4. What is your funniest memory/experience that you can recall of?
  5. What is your favourite quote from a film?
  6. What gift or talent do you wish you had?
  7. Which countries have you travelled to?
  8. Would you ever consider living abroad?
  9. Do you have a particular food that you can’t stand?
  10. What is the most valuable lesson you have learned recently?
  11. What made you want to start blogging?

I would like to thank everybody who has read and supported the Pain Warrior Code! I really appreciate all that you have done to help fulfil the purpose of this blog – which is ultimately to empower, educate and elevate people who suffer with chronic pain and illnesses. Please go ahead and check out the other blogs that I have nominated and tagged into this award post. Don’t forget to check out the lovely Alyssa’s blog as well!

Have a great weekend warriors!

Tasha M

@PainWarriorCode