You are entitled to have a rest, don’t deprive yourself of something that is
detrimental to your wellbeing…
I haven’t posted a #PainWarriorPepTalk in a while! I am hoping you have recently had some better days (emotionally mentally) & some pain-free days also!
I haven’t posted much lately as I had the summer holidays away from work. Unfortunately, the new school year has commenced. Alas, I am classroom-bound again for this academic year *cue sad violin music*.
Before the holidays started, I had originally planned to get a lot of work done. Truth be told, I didn’t get much done at all! I was regretful once the end of the holidays approached. I felt like I had failed myself. However, my perspective changed once I reflected on what I did get to do over the summer; I spent quality time with my family and close friends. I don’t usually get to spend much time with my people during the academic year. This is usually because I am pressed for time, or don’t always feel well enough whenever it’s the weekend or a holiday from work. When I realised this, it had hit me that maybe I was being too hard on myself: as a person who deals with a chronic illness, I juggle two jobs (most of us spoonies struggle to deal with one!). Before the holidays, my body was already acting up and I felt run down. I needed the summer holidays to rest, recuperate and regenerate my energy. It was ludicrous to plan to use my time on holiday FROM work, to DO work! I’m not a newbie warrior – I know better than that.
So why am I sharing this with you? To remind you that it is OKAY to rest. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. There needs to be time for everything; including a time for working AND a time to rest. But make sure you don’t neglect the latter. Resting enables you to regenerate the energy you will need to get your next task or goal completed.
Now one can easily think “I already know this…”, but don’t consider this pep talk to be a new lesson – consider it to be a revision session.
We already know spoonie life entails our bodies constantly being under attack. You can’t control every aspect of what your illness does to you. However, you can control how much rest you allow yourself to have.
If we take the Spoon Theory into account, it is essential for us to recuperate and regain our spoons. We stifle our chances of having four/five spoons if we are always pushing ourselves on one spoon. This will result in us crashing in a way that is so disastrous, it will take longer to recuperate. Longer than it would have if we had just rested prior to our bodies feeling run down.
For those of you aren’t sure what the Spoon Theory is, the best way I can explain it follows;
The Spoon Theory is usually used by those who suffer from chronic illnesses or have disabilities. This theory was originally penned by Christine Miserandino: it uses metaphorical spoons in a way that can be likened to a meter. This meter measures how much energy an individual has to engage in tasks for that day. The quantity of spoons the individual has (0-5) indicates how much energy they possess. 0 spoons mean the individual has absolutely no strength to function: it’s a dreadful day. 5 spoons mean the individual is feeling quite powered & able to function to the best of their ability. Keep in mind that a person having 5 spoons doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t experiencing any pain at all. I have had many 5 spoons days where I am able to go to work and function to the best of my abilities – with the pain still present.
Which brings me back to the point: You are entitled to have a rest. Don’t deprive yourself of something that is detrimental to your wellbeing. Also, stop making yourself feel guilty or stressed whenever you do take time out to rest. If you spend the whole time doing this, you won’t even feel rested when it is over. Thus you will only be returning, feeling just as rubbish – if not worse than you already felt before you had your break.
Take time out and make every effort to enjoy it. Do whatever makes you feel peaceful & tranquil. Whether that is sleeping, reading, watching television, rolling on the floor (providing that it doesn’t use up your spoons) whatever works for you! When you do, own it. Be good to yourself. Your body is already fighting you on everything else as it is. Your work, job or family aren’t going anywhere and they’ll be there when you have finished your break!
When was the last time you took time out for a break? Leave a comment and talk to me!
Wishing you well warriors! Until next time,
Question Time! Have you ever tried pain management or counselling for your illness or pain? How did you find it? Comment about your experiences or interest 🙂👍🏾
It’s your life warriors. Try to live it to the best of your abilities. Nobody can live it for you!
So for this week’s #PainWarriorPepTalk, remember that your life is yours to live warriors. Try to live it to the best of your abilities. Nobody can live it for you! We don’t know how long we have left so let’s try to make the most of it. Don’t let your struggles manipulate you to believe that you are not allowed to have a life that you can enjoy.
I will be posting an article in the coming days to share tips with you on how to live your life to the fullest. After all warriors, we’re learning to live our best life yet! Keep an eye out!
Discussion time! 😁 For those working warriors, or those who used to work while juggling their illness – comment & share your tips on how you cope(d) with your illness at work 🗣
This will be helpful for those who need advice or encouragement 👍🏾
#TuesdayTalks has now been rebranded #PainWarriorTalks. They’ve been given a new image and a new name! 😃 The talks will still be posted every Tuesday!
Hey Warriors! I am sending each & every one of you good vibes. Wishing you all a pain-free, flare-free & anxiety-free week! That’s right I’m daring to wish it & speak it over you guys. This week is yours, not your illness’! ⠀
Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter.
I think this week’s Pain Warrior Pep Talk is needed!
I know some of you have been struggling and feeling like things just won’t ease up. Like the weight of your problems are crushing you. Life can become frustrating when it seems like one issue with your health has backed off, but another has now reared it’s ugly head. Keep going. Remember that you are a warrior. That means you are a fighter. You were built to endure this war. Trust that a season will come where things will ease up for you – whether it be a remission, a cure, or one of your problems passes. IT. WILL. COME.
There is a scripture that I often hold on to during my toughest days or weeks;
“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair.” 2 Corinthians 4:7
This scipture came from a letter that was written by a man named Paul. He was an apostle who had faced many trials, tribulations, abuse – physical and verbal due to his faith in God. This quote in itself highlights the facts that as a believer, we WILL encounter situations and pains that will feel like we are being broken down, but we won’t be crushed. We won’t be destroyed by it. I have found this has helped me because I turn to God for strength when I feel like chronic migraine is weighing me down. Like everybody else, I also struggle. But I cannot rely on my own strength. If I did, I would have ran out of strength and given up on my life eventually. But it is God who continues to renew mine when I feel like quitting. Now I share this not to preach at people and convince you to get baptised tomorrow, but to be one hudred percent transparent about how I get through my tough times, and HOW it is that I manage to stay afloat and have the energy to encourage people. If I was to exclude my faith from this to suit people’s feelings – then that, quite frankly, would make me a fraud and a liar.
This is what keeps me going, I hope it will encourage you warriors. You can have an amazing future lying ahead of you. However, you’ll only get to see it if you keep on pushing and don’t give up. I’m in right in the middle of this struggle with you. Keep your head up warriors.
Until next time,